{"product_id":"hold-on-to-your-kids-why-parents-need-to-matter-more-than-peers","title":"Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eGordon Neufeld, Gabor Mate\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003cbr\u003ePaperback, 352 pages\u003cbr\u003e9781785042195\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eChildren take their lead from their friends: being 'cool' matters more than anything else. In shaping values, identity and codes of behaviour, peer groups are often far more influential than parents.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBut this situation is far from natural, and it can be dangerous - it undermines family cohesion, interferes with healthy development, and fosters a hostile and sexualized youth culture. Children end up becoming conformist, anxious and alienated. In Hold on to Your Kids, acclaimed physician and bestselling author Gabor Mate joins forces with Gordon Neufeld, a psychologist with a reputation for penetrating to the heart of complex parenting.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eTogether they pinpoint the causes of this breakdown and offer practical advice on how to 'reattach' to sons and daughters, establish the hierarchy at home, make children feel safe and understood, and earn back your children's loyalty and love. This updated edition also addresses the unprecedented parenting challenges posed by the rise of digital devices and social media. By helping to reawaken our instincts, Mate and Neufeld empower parents to be what nature intended: a true source of contact, security and warmth for their children.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eContents\u003cbr\u003ePart One: The Phenomenon of Peer Orientation\u003cbr\u003e1. Why Parents Matter More Than Ever\u003cbr\u003e2. Skewed Attachments, Subverted Instincts\u003cbr\u003e3. Why We've Come Undone\u003cbr\u003ePart Two: Sabotaged: How Peer Orientation Undermines Parenting\u003cbr\u003e4. The Power to Parent Is Slipping Away\u003cbr\u003e5. From Help to Hinderance: When Attachment Works Against Us\u003cbr\u003e6. Counterwill: Why Children Become Disobedient\u003cbr\u003e7. The Flatlining Culture\u003cbr\u003ePart Three: Stuck in Immaturity: How Peer Orientation Stunts Healthy Development\u003cbr\u003e8. The Dangerous Flight from Feeling\u003cbr\u003e9. Stuck in Immaturity\u003cbr\u003e10. A Legacy of Aggression\u003cbr\u003e11. The Making of Bullies and Victims\u003cbr\u003e12. A Sexual Turn\u003cbr\u003e13. Unteachable Students\u003cbr\u003ePart Four: How to Hold on to Our Kids (Or How to Reclaim Them)\u003cbr\u003e14. Collecting Our Children\u003cbr\u003e15. Preserve the Ties that Empower\u003cbr\u003e16. Discipline That Does Not Divide\u003cbr\u003ePart Five: Parenting Peer Orientation\u003cbr\u003e17. Don't Court the Competition\u003cbr\u003e18. Re-create the Attachment Village\u003cbr\u003ePart Six: A Postscript for the Digital Age\u003cbr\u003e19. The Digital Revolution Bent Out of Shape\u003cbr\u003e20. A Matter of Timing\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Ebury Press","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":39909990924323,"sku":"9781785042195","price":28.8,"currency_code":"SGD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/2514\/8624\/products\/DSC_2328.jpg?v=1673487988","url":"https:\/\/wardahbooks.mom\/products\/hold-on-to-your-kids-why-parents-need-to-matter-more-than-peers","provider":"Wardah Books","version":"1.0","type":"link"}